Roles

We went to the second half of our Baby Express class the other day, and it wasn't very great. It was a new instructor, and all she did was read to us out of a book. But there was one thing she said that really struck a nerve with me. She was showing us a way to hold the baby to calm him down and she told the dads to pay special attention because, "You may walk in the door after a long day at work and see your wife holding the baby who's been crying all day. You'll want to take the baby from her and give her a break so she can have some free time to get in the kitchen and make dinner. Don't you want a home cooked meal?" My jaw dropped open.

Now I'm all about jokes about a woman's place being in the kitchen, but this woman was dead serious, and it really pissed me off. The thing that works best in my marriage is that we're equals, and we share the work that goes into the house. Yes I do the majority of the cooking, but if I don't feel like cooking, it's no big deal, and if I were to ask for help, my husband would be there. He also does all the dishes which is an added bonus. We're a team, and if anyone was to suggest otherwise, they may get a swift kick in the face.

As of now, I'm a stay at home mom, but that may not be the long term plan. I still keep my eyes out for work and I get so much support from my husband. He wants me to be happy, and he's willing to back me up with whatever I decide. In short, I'm lucky, and if I'm stuck at home with a crying baby all day, the last place you'll find me is in the kitchen cooking dinner, but if you look for my husband, you'll probably find him in the drive through at Alberto's.